Patti Smith
A dance-trance hymn to erotic and spiritual surrender, where a woman's devotion to a man is described in the third person as…
erotic devotion as religion loss of self through ecstasy gender and idealization
The Temptations
A smooth soul plea in which a narrator tries to talk a wounded woman out of her cynicism about love, positioning himself as…
persuasion and courtship healing after heartbreak idealization of love
Vince Gill
A country love song built around the physical panic of infatuation rather than its resolution. The narrator never gets to…
unrequited longing vulnerability idealization
Led Zeppelin
A folk-inflected ballad about chasing an idealized woman and a fresh start in California, only to find the search shading into…
romantic idealization escape and reinvention California mythology
The Raincoats
The Raincoats' version of the Kinks' 1970 hit keeps the original words intact but changes everything about who is speaking,…
gender ambiguity sexual awakening performance of identity
Lauryn Hill
Lauryn Hill delivers a two-part sermon on sex, self-respect, and modern relationship dysfunction, addressing women in the first…
sexual double standards nostalgia for a simpler past personal responsibility
Radiohead
A song of self-loathing built around a single obsessive comparison: the speaker idolizes someone he sees as flawless while…
self-loathing unrequited desire alienation
The Postal Service
A love song built on cosmic-scale metaphor that keeps colliding with mundane domestic detail: the singer stretches to find…
long-distance love faith versus skepticism idealization
Joan Armatrading
A love song built almost entirely on declaration rather than incident: a narrator confesses an all-consuming attachment, admits…
infatuation self-aware sentimentality gratitude/luck
Bert Jansch
A late-period Bert Jansch song that treats courtship as sorcery, built from a wandering, almost dreamlike set of images rather…
enchantment and desire the limits of language to capture love folkloric imagery
Minutemen
A brief, aphoristic piece in which the Minutemen compress a whole philosophical argument about human self-regard into a handful…
human self-image skepticism vs idealism scale and insignificance
Deep Purple
This is Deep Purple's cover of the Neil Diamond original, a straightforward blues-rock love song built around a repeated title…
idealized love devotion simplicity/contentment
Röyksopp
This is a lyric built almost entirely from fragments and repetition, functioning more as an incantation than a narrative song.…
idealization and unattainability transcendence bodily/sensory ecstasy
Lucinda Williams
An early Lucinda Williams ballad addressed to an idealized poet-lover, mixing plainspoken country-blues devotion with a fantasy…
idealized love escapism artistic admiration
Joy Division
A bleak meditation on betrayed loyalty, dressed in the language of grand ideals that curdle into disillusionment. The song moves…
betrayal disillusionment failed idealism
Genesis
A slight, hazy pop song from Genesis's most commercial period, built on a chorus of impossible images and a coy premise about a…
romantic idealization altered perception the impossible/surreal
The Byrds
This is a cover of Neil Young's enigmatic address to an idealized, almost mythic woman, sung here in the harmony-driven style…
idealized femininity aging and desirability ambivalence toward love
Portishead
A weary meditation on gender roles and the exhaustion of performing femininity as a game, "Scorn" pleads for authentic…
gender roles emotional exhaustion authenticity vs performance
The Slits
The Slits catalogue a set of sexist clichés about femininity by reciting them in a flat, deadpan list, letting the accumulation…
gender stereotyping commodification of femininity conformity vs rebellion
The Supremes
A pastoral love song built on borrowed classical melody (adapted from a Baroque minuet traditionally attributed to Bach,…
idealized romance nature as backdrop for love devotion and permanence
The Replacements
A quietly tender ballad from a famously loud punk band, this song imagines two gender-nonconforming lovers with a gentleness…
gender nonconformity acceptance and tolerance love as constancy
Sonic Youth
A satirical dialogue between a rock star's ego and a skeptical female voice, "Kool Thing" stages a flirtation that curdles into…
gender and power celebrity worship racial politics
Animal Collective
A song built around a half-real, half-mediated female icon glimpsed through screens and reviews, with the narrator working out…
celebrity and mediated desire gender and sexuality fandom as devotion
Merle Haggard
This is Merle Haggard's rendition of the Irving Berlin standard, a song of longing for an idealized, snow-covered Christmas from…
nostalgia longing for home idealized past
The Kinks
A wide-eyed young narrator recounts a night at a Soho club where he meets a striking, ambiguous figure named Lola, and the song…
gender ambiguity sexual awakening urban nightlife
The Beatles
A bouncy, deliberately artificial ska-pop tale of a market-stall trader and a band singer who fall in love, marry, and settle…
everyday romance domesticity gender roles
The Shins
A dense, imagistic broadside against utopian thinking, disguised as a fever dream. James Mercer stacks surreal images and civic…
failed utopia capitalism's corrosion of idealism collective disillusionment
Jethro Tull
A gentle, hushed love song built on the image of watching a sleeping partner and holding onto quiet, private moments. It moves…
tender devotion distance and longing the fragility of romantic idealism
Waylon Jennings
A meditation on the gap between the mythic cowboy and the man who tried to live inside that myth. The song traces how a…
disillusionment with myth loneliness and rootlessness masculinity and emotional detachment
Joan Baez
A Bob Dylan composition performed here by Joan Baez, the song is a firm, almost gentle refusal of an idealized love that demands…
refusal of idealized love autonomy versus self-erasure disillusionment with romantic fantasy
J. Cole
A meditation on romantic paralysis in the social-media age, in which a narrator falls for an idealized image of someone he's…
digital-age loneliness fear of vulnerability idealization vs reality
Brandi Carlile
A meditation on a romance that idealizes itself even as it self-sabotages, built around the tension between two people who…
self-sabotage in love idealization versus reality fear of vulnerability
Charley Pride
A straightforward, warmly sentimental holiday song that paints an idealized small-town Christmas Eve scene, moving from snowy…
nostalgia small-town idealism childhood wonder
The Slits take a Motown heartbreak standard, drenched for decades in Marvin Gaye's soul-man anguish, and strip its gender…
gossip and rumor gendered performance of emotion betrayal
A country ballad built around a single stinging word used as both title and chorus hook, tracing two failed relationships that…
disillusionment the unreliability of certainty repeated romantic failure
The Clash
A song about the corrosive gap between youthful rebel ideals and the compromises that inevitably follow, written by a band…
selling out and compromise the mythology of rebellion cynicism vs. idealism
Joan Baez turns memoir into address here, tracing her own adolescence in postwar American youth culture before pivoting to speak…
coming of age motherhood and generational transmission disillusionment with romantic ideals
Sleater‐Kinney
Sleater-Kinney takes the fan-idolatry that surrounds male rock stars and flips the gender of the fantasy, imagining a female…
gender and rock stardom fandom and desire female agency
Elvis Costello
A deceptively sunny, Beach Boys-styled pop song that uses its bright surf-rock arrangement as a Trojan horse for a scathing…
media and celebrity culture environmental destruction disillusionment with 60s idealism
Stereolab
A short, almost mantra-like piece that treats a dream or ideal as something that must travel from intellect to feeling before it…
mind versus feeling ideal versus lived experience language's limits