Results for “self-assertion after submission”

Songs

Self Control

Frank Ocean

A wistful, fragmented account of a fading summer romance that never quite resolved into anything permanent, sung from the…

unrequited or asymmetrical desire nostalgia for a shared past that never fully existed self-restraint and its collapse

Borderline (An Ode to Self Care)

Solange

A hushed, weary meditation on withdrawal as an act of love, this A Seat at the Table track frames stepping back from public and…

burnout and self-care solidarity under pressure the personal as political

Everything Is Everything

Lauryn Hill

A meditation on cyclical change and self-determination that doubles as a virtuosic display of rap craft, this track pairs a…

cyclical change and renewal self-empowerment spiritual/religious syncretism

Model Worker

Magazine

A deadpan monologue delivered in the voice of someone confessing bourgeois failings to an unseen authority and pledging reform…

ideological conformity self-criticism and confession consumerism vs. asceticism

Your Dog

Soccer Mommy

A blunt breakup anthem built on a single extended metaphor: being treated like a pet, kept for convenience and put away when not…

codependency and control objectification in relationships self-assertion after submission

I Am a Scientist

Guided by Voices

A short, deceptively simple lo-fi anthem in which the narrator cycles through professional identities—scientist, journalist,…

self-examination addiction and escape art as self-medication

Every Time the Sun Comes Up

Sharon Van Etten

This is Sharon Van Etten at her loosest and most winking, a track built on a single sardonic refrain about self-sabotage rather…

self-sabotage domestic disorder irony and deflection

All My Favorite Songs

Weezer

A catalog of small self-contradictions strung together into a chorus of self-diagnosis, this song treats confusion about one's…

self-contradiction anxiety and self-diagnosis ambivalence toward pleasure

Sleep to Dream

Fiona Apple

A confrontational breakup song in which the narrator refuses to be gaslit or diminished by a partner who has treated her badly.…

self-assertion betrayal refusal of victimhood

Me and My Husband

Mitski

A brief, waltz-like song that frames marriage not as romance but as a bulwark against mortality and self-loathing. The…

mortality and impermanence self-erasure marriage as survival strategy

Over the Edge

Wipers

A terse punk confession of exhaustion with betrayal and manipulation, delivered as a series of clipped accusations rather than a…

alienation psychological breakdown refusal of conformity

Oh Daddy

Fleetwood Mac

Christine McVie's ballad is a quiet confession of self-abasement inside a relationship, sung to a partner who holds all the…

romantic submission self-doubt power imbalance

All Apologies

Nirvana

A closing statement of exhaustion dressed as a lullaby, where the singer offers blanket apology and self-erasure instead of…

self-effacement marriage and domesticity guilt and blame

Now, Now

St. Vincent

A voice built entirely of negation insists on its own indeterminacy while a second, quieter voice tries to soothe or scold it…

self-negation and identity refusal power and submission emotional volatility

Live Oak

Jason Isbell

A murder ballad disguised as a confession of self-improvement, in which the narrator's claim to have left his violent past…

duality of self violence and love intertwined addiction as haunting past self

Unf**ktheworld

Angel Olsen

A quiet, stripped-back breakup song that traces the moment self-abandonment turns into self-recovery. Olsen sings in a plain,…

self-abandonment and self-recovery romantic disillusionment solitude as survival

Turn Out the Lights

Julien Baker

A quiet, unflinching account of a mind alone at night, where the speaker admits to self-harm ideation without melodrama and asks…

depression and isolation self-harm ideation asking for help while deflecting it

Drunk Drivers/Killer Whales

Car Seat Headrest

A meditation on addiction, self-destruction, and the possibility of change, filtered through the recurring image of driving…

addiction and self-destruction shame and self-loathing the possibility of redemption

Miss Misery

Elliott Smith

A stripped-down confession of failed self-repair, written for the film Good Will Hunting but functioning as a self-contained…

self-medication and denial romantic abandonment performed resilience

Hot & Heavy

Lucy Dacus

Lucy Dacus revisits an old, formative relationship with a former self who has since become someone else entirely — more…

nostalgia and revisitation growth and self-transformation guilt and self-protection

Bird On a Wire

Leonard Cohen

A confession and an apology run together as the speaker compares himself to a series of unstable, straining images to explain…

freedom versus commitment guilt and self-forgiveness instability of the self

I Need You

Eurythmics

A stark, almost claustrophobic litany of need that keeps mistaking pain for intimacy. The song strips romantic longing down to…

desire and self-destruction performance of feeling control and submission

Boats to Build

Guy Clark

Guy Clark turns the craft of boatbuilding into a meditation on making a life with your own hands and getting on with it before…

mortality and urgency craftsmanship as self-definition self-reliance

Coming Up Roses

Elliott Smith

A hallucinatory address to a self or double, tracking a slow poisoning that the speaker frames as a kind of blooming. The song…

addiction and self-destruction dissociation from the self toxic inheritance

Glory! Glory!

Underworld

This early Underworld track, before their techno reinvention, is a pop-rock song about power imbalance dressed as romantic…

power and submission romantic self-abasement vanity disguised as generosity

We Run This

Missy Elliott

A brash, party-floor anthem in which Missy Elliott asserts sexual and regional dominance in equal measure, treating braggadocio…

sexual assertiveness regional pride/unity self-mythologizing braggadocio

Mannish Boy

Muddy Waters

Muddy Waters restages his own 1955 declaration of manhood as a late-career victory lap, spelling out the word itself to leave no…

masculinity and self-definition aging and vitality racial dignity ('man' vs 'boy')

Reason to Believe

Karen Dalton

Karen Dalton's reading of the Tim Hardin standard turns a folk-pop lament into something closer to a slow reckoning with…

self-deception emotional dependency betrayal

A Fond Farewell

Elliott Smith

A quiet, devastating self-elegy disguised as a song about someone else, in which the narrator uses the third person to describe…

addiction self-annihilation denial and dissociation

Chasing a Bee

Mercury Rev

A hazy, druggy fable about pursuit and containment, where sunlit imagery of seduction and pleasure keeps curdling into images of…

intoxication and altered perception freedom versus entrapment instability of the self

Always This Way

Laura Marling

A quiet meditation on loss and self-accounting, where the narrator processes the departure of someone close by returning…

heartbreak and abandonment self-reliance as coping mechanism fate versus choice

Identity

X‐Ray Spex

A short, hammering punk track that treats the idea of self-image as a literal wound. Poly Styrene repeats the word "identity"…

media saturation self-image and alienation consumer culture

The Apprentice

Gorillaz

A brittle, self-alienated meditation on being watched and misread, built around a narrator who repeatedly defines himself only…

surveillance and misperception emotional numbness/detachment identity as reflection rather than substance

Don't Follow

Alice in Chains

A stripped-down acoustic confession from a narrator who insists on leaving while quietly begging to be brought back. The song…

addiction and self-destruction isolation vs. longing for home guilt and self-recrimination

Art School

The Jam

A blast of punk-era sloganeering that treats the art school as a metaphor for total creative and social permission. The Jam…

youthful self-assertion anti-authoritarianism media distrust

Bigmouth Strikes Again

The Smiths

A serial motormouth apologizes for cruel things he's said, then dramatically inflates his guilt by comparing himself to a martyr…

guilt and self-loathing comic martyrdom the damage of words

Smooth Dancer

Deep Purple

A deep cut from Deep Purple's 1973 album that reads as a kiss-off to a seductive but hollow figure, wrapped in nightclub imagery…

toxic attraction emotional manipulation independence/self-assertion

Stop Me If You Think You've Heard This One Before

The Smiths

A breakneck, self-aware confession that treats romantic disappointment as a repeating accident nobody can prevent. The title's…

self-repeating heartbreak denial and accusation masochism and self-punishment

Backwoods Barbie

Dolly Parton

Dolly Parton uses her own famously exaggerated image as the subject of a plainspoken self-defense, arguing that artifice and…

appearance vs. substance class and self-invention self-defense against stereotype

All Falls Down

Kanye West Tribute Band

A meditation on materialism and insecurity in Black American life, built around a fictional college dropout in the first verse…

consumerism as compensation racial economic inequality self-consciousness and insecurity