Results for “self-defense/blame”

Songs

Self Control

Frank Ocean

A wistful, fragmented account of a fading summer romance that never quite resolved into anything permanent, sung from the…

unrequited or asymmetrical desire nostalgia for a shared past that never fully existed self-restraint and its collapse

Borderline (An Ode to Self Care)

Solange

A hushed, weary meditation on withdrawal as an act of love, this A Seat at the Table track frames stepping back from public and…

burnout and self-care solidarity under pressure the personal as political

Hyper Enough

Superchunk

A jittery, half-legible burst of indie-rock energy that layers a repeated self-diagnosis ("hyper enough") over fragments of…

overstimulation self-defense/blame physical exhaustion

All Apologies

Nirvana

A closing statement of exhaustion dressed as a lullaby, where the singer offers blanket apology and self-erasure instead of…

self-effacement marriage and domesticity guilt and blame

Backwoods Barbie

Dolly Parton

Dolly Parton uses her own famously exaggerated image as the subject of a plainspoken self-defense, arguing that artifice and…

appearance vs. substance class and self-invention self-defense against stereotype

Anti-Hero

Taylor Swift

Taylor Swift turns a self-lacerating confessional into a singalong chorus, cataloguing her worst self-perceptions—insomnia,…

self-loathing and self-awareness fame and disproportion fear of abandonment

Skinny Love

Bon Iver

A raw, fragmentary breakup address built from accusation and self-recrimination in equal measure, sung to a fading relationship…

dissolution of a relationship emotional exhaustion blame and self-blame

The District Sleeps Alone

The Postal Service

A late-night visit to an ex's apartment becomes an occasion for the narrator to realize, with quiet devastation, why the…

breakup and self-recognition displacement/homelessness emotional detachment as defense

Always This Way

Laura Marling

A quiet meditation on loss and self-accounting, where the narrator processes the departure of someone close by returning…

heartbreak and abandonment self-reliance as coping mechanism fate versus choice

I Am a Scientist

Guided by Voices

A short, deceptively simple lo-fi anthem in which the narrator cycles through professional identities—scientist, journalist,…

self-examination addiction and escape art as self-medication

Every Time the Sun Comes Up

Sharon Van Etten

This is Sharon Van Etten at her loosest and most winking, a track built on a single sardonic refrain about self-sabotage rather…

self-sabotage domestic disorder irony and deflection

Volcano

Damien Rice

A duet-shaped confession about mismatched intimacy, where the narrator warns a partner against overcommitting emotionally while…

emotional imbalance self-doubt in intimacy fear of dependency

All My Favorite Songs

Weezer

A catalog of small self-contradictions strung together into a chorus of self-diagnosis, this song treats confusion about one's…

self-contradiction anxiety and self-diagnosis ambivalence toward pleasure

The Only Heartbreaker

Mitski

Mitski casts herself as the sole villain in a relationship, resigned to always being the one who does damage while her partner…

self-blame and guilt imbalance in relationships performative repentance

Taking It All Too Hard

Genesis

A mid-tempo Genesis album track that watches an ex-partner spiral into self-blame after a breakup, with a narrator who claims…

emotional distancing denial and self-blame breakup aftermath

Me and My Husband

Mitski

A brief, waltz-like song that frames marriage not as romance but as a bulwark against mortality and self-loathing. The…

mortality and impermanence self-erasure marriage as survival strategy

Cheerleader

Grizzly Bear

A short, hypnotic song built around a repeated whispered aside that undercuts its own encouragement: the speaker admits to…

self-doubt emotional exhaustion performed positivity

Should Have Known Better

Sufjan Stevens

A song about the aftermath of a mother's abandonment and death, staged as a private argument between numbness and the…

maternal abandonment and grief emotional repression childhood memory

She's Too Good for Me

Warren Zevon

A plainspoken breakup song built on self-deprecation that curdles into something more ambiguous: a man insists his ex is better…

self-blame romantic inadequacy pride versus grief

Know Your Onion!

The Shins

A fast, breathless rush of a song about salvaging a self out of adolescent isolation through music and books, then pushing that…

adolescent alienation self-invention through art escape and departure

Live Oak

Jason Isbell

A murder ballad disguised as a confession of self-improvement, in which the narrator's claim to have left his violent past…

duality of self violence and love intertwined addiction as haunting past self

Another Brick In the Wall, Pt. 3

Pink Floyd

This is the moment PinkInk's protagonist Pink completes his self-imposed isolation, rejecting comfort, chemical or human, as a…

emotional withdrawal self-destruction disguised as independence accumulated trauma

Turn Out the Lights

Julien Baker

A quiet, unflinching account of a mind alone at night, where the speaker admits to self-harm ideation without melodrama and asks…

depression and isolation self-harm ideation asking for help while deflecting it

Drunk Drivers/Killer Whales

Car Seat Headrest

A meditation on addiction, self-destruction, and the possibility of change, filtered through the recurring image of driving…

addiction and self-destruction shame and self-loathing the possibility of redemption

Miss Misery

Elliott Smith

A stripped-down confession of failed self-repair, written for the film Good Will Hunting but functioning as a self-contained…

self-medication and denial romantic abandonment performed resilience

Hot & Heavy

Lucy Dacus

Lucy Dacus revisits an old, formative relationship with a former self who has since become someone else entirely — more…

nostalgia and revisitation growth and self-transformation guilt and self-protection

How Simple

Hop Along

A song about watching your own self-regard curdle in real time, as the narrator catches themselves vain, self-deceiving, and…

vanity and self-scrutiny romantic self-deception impermanence of intimacy

Bird On a Wire

Leonard Cohen

A confession and an apology run together as the speaker compares himself to a series of unstable, straining images to explain…

freedom versus commitment guilt and self-forgiveness instability of the self

Boats to Build

Guy Clark

Guy Clark turns the craft of boatbuilding into a meditation on making a life with your own hands and getting on with it before…

mortality and urgency craftsmanship as self-definition self-reliance

Coming Up Roses

Elliott Smith

A hallucinatory address to a self or double, tracking a slow poisoning that the speaker frames as a kind of blooming. The song…

addiction and self-destruction dissociation from the self toxic inheritance

Gone for Good

The Shins

A breakup song built as a farewell letter from someone who has already decided to leave, delivered with a mix of relief,…

disillusionment with commitment self-justification after leaving emotional withdrawal

Jesus and Tequila

Minutemen

A working-class narrator recounts losing both a lover and a job, then retreats into a stubborn, self-medicating creed built on…

alienation working-class disillusionment self-destructive coping

Reason to Believe

Karen Dalton

Karen Dalton's reading of the Tim Hardin standard turns a folk-pop lament into something closer to a slow reckoning with…

self-deception emotional dependency betrayal

Wrong

Depeche Mode

A driving, distorted rock track built almost entirely around a single word, hammered into the listener until it becomes a kind…

fatalism self-loathing determinism vs. blame

Everything Is Everything

Lauryn Hill

A meditation on cyclical change and self-determination that doubles as a virtuosic display of rap craft, this track pairs a…

cyclical change and renewal self-empowerment spiritual/religious syncretism

A Fond Farewell

Elliott Smith

A quiet, devastating self-elegy disguised as a song about someone else, in which the narrator uses the third person to describe…

addiction self-annihilation denial and dissociation

Chasing a Bee

Mercury Rev

A hazy, druggy fable about pursuit and containment, where sunlit imagery of seduction and pleasure keeps curdling into images of…

intoxication and altered perception freedom versus entrapment instability of the self

KOD

J. Cole

The title track of KOD uses a hypnotic, hook-driven trap structure to embody the very drugs of ego, materialism, and violence it…

addiction and self-medication fame and defensiveness cyclical violence

Kill Bill

SZA

SZA turns a breakup confession into a deadpan murder fantasy, using the exaggerated violence of the title as a vehicle for…

obsessive love jealousy denial and self-deception

Identity

X‐Ray Spex

A short, hammering punk track that treats the idea of self-image as a literal wound. Poly Styrene repeats the word "identity"…

media saturation self-image and alienation consumer culture