Results for “self-destruction as intimacy”

Songs

Borderline (An Ode to Self Care)

Solange

A hushed, weary meditation on withdrawal as an act of love, this A Seat at the Table track frames stepping back from public and…

burnout and self-care solidarity under pressure the personal as political

Self Control

Frank Ocean

A wistful, fragmented account of a fading summer romance that never quite resolved into anything permanent, sung from the…

unrequited or asymmetrical desire nostalgia for a shared past that never fully existed self-restraint and its collapse

Volcano

Damien Rice

A duet-shaped confession about mismatched intimacy, where the narrator warns a partner against overcommitting emotionally while…

emotional imbalance self-doubt in intimacy fear of dependency

How Simple

Hop Along

A song about watching your own self-regard curdle in real time, as the narrator catches themselves vain, self-deceiving, and…

vanity and self-scrutiny romantic self-deception impermanence of intimacy

Drunk Drivers/Killer Whales

Car Seat Headrest

A meditation on addiction, self-destruction, and the possibility of change, filtered through the recurring image of driving…

addiction and self-destruction shame and self-loathing the possibility of redemption

Incinerate

Sonic Youth

A love-as-arson song that turns romantic devastation into a fire-and-rescue scenario, with the narrator both perpetrator and…

romantic destruction self-annihilation violence as intimacy

Hot & Heavy

Lucy Dacus

Lucy Dacus revisits an old, formative relationship with a former self who has since become someone else entirely — more…

nostalgia and revisitation growth and self-transformation guilt and self-protection

Power

Kanye West Tribute Band

A song about the corrosive intoxication of fame and cultural power, built on a warning it repeatedly ignores. Kanye West stages…

fame and its psychological cost hubris and self-awareness racial visibility and scrutiny

Slow Hands

Interpol

Interpol pairs one of their most euphoric, propulsive arrangements with a lyric that keeps circling wounds, surveillance, and…

obsessive love surveillance and paranoia self-destruction

Coming Up Roses

Elliott Smith

A hallucinatory address to a self or double, tracking a slow poisoning that the speaker frames as a kind of blooming. The song…

addiction and self-destruction dissociation from the self toxic inheritance

Jesus and Tequila

Minutemen

A working-class narrator recounts losing both a lover and a job, then retreats into a stubborn, self-medicating creed built on…

alienation working-class disillusionment self-destructive coping

Scott Street

Phoebe Bridgers

A wandering walk through a familiar neighborhood becomes an occasion for reckoning with a lapsed relationship, as the narrator…

awkward reunion emotional numbness nostalgia and aging

Nobody Gets Me

SZA

A ballad about a relationship that keeps collapsing and reforming, built around the idea that intimacy and self-worth have…

codependency self-worth tied to another person cycles of breakup and reconciliation

Don't Follow

Alice in Chains

A stripped-down acoustic confession from a narrator who insists on leaving while quietly begging to be brought back. The song…

addiction and self-destruction isolation vs. longing for home guilt and self-recrimination

Squonk

Genesis

Genesis take the folkloric Squonk—a creature of Pennsylvania legend so ashamed of its own ugliness that it weeps constantly and…

shame and self-loathing the cruelty of pursuit despair and self-destruction

Love Me More

Mitski

A pop song built around a compulsive request for reassurance, in which the demand for love slides into a demand for numbness.…

self-destructive coping dependency on external validation anxiety and burnout

Old Flame

Arcade Fire

This early Arcade Fire track is a compact study of a relationship that keeps reigniting despite both parties knowing better. It…

cyclical relationships self-destructive attraction emotional clutter

Eye Know

De La Soul

"Eye Know" is De La Soul's sunniest love song, built on a Steely Dan sample and playful Daisy Age slang. Both Posdnuos and…

courtship and seduction wordplay as intimacy group identity and self-naming

Since You Put Me Down

Margo Price

A breakup song built around a single, escalating image: the narrator drinking hard enough to kill off her own conscience so…

heartbreak and self-destruction alcohol as anesthetic hardened self-protection

Blow Up the Outside World

Soundgarden

A song built on a paradox: a narrator who insists he's unbreakable while quietly confessing he's contemplating annihilating the…

invulnerability as self-deception depression and self-destruction isolation vs. connection

Dancing On My Own

Robyn

A dance-floor confessional in which the narrator watches an ex kiss someone new from across the room, trapped between the…

unrequited longing self-erasure and invisibility public heartbreak

Drunken Poet's Dream

Hayes Carll

A boozy, image-drunk love song that treats chaos and companionship as inseparable. The narrator catalogs a wrecked domestic…

romantic obsession self-destruction as intimacy escapism

Blue

Joni Mitchell

A short, fragmentary address to someone (or something) called Blue, mixing tenderness with an inventory of the era's chemical…

addiction and self-destruction intimacy as gift-giving disillusionment with countercultural excess

I Bet on Losing Dogs

Mitski

Mitski builds a compact love song around a single, self-lacerating gambling metaphor: choosing to invest in something bound to…

self-sabotage in love masochistic devotion desire as identification with failure

Hand of Kindness

Richard Thompson

A first-person account of self-sabotage—hanging, shipwrecking, sabotaging one's own vehicle of escape—that keeps circling back…

self-destruction dependence on others redemption/salvation

Gone

John Hiatt

A stripped-down, list-driven blues about total loss, where a man catalogs everything that has vanished from his life -- money, a…

loss and dispossession self-destruction addiction

Mistakes

Sharon Van Etten

A loose, joyful sketch of dancing badly and not caring, where physical clumsiness becomes a stand-in for emotional…

self-acceptance imperfection as freedom physical joy

Sky Full of Song

Florence + the Machine

A song about the exhaustion of being airborne — famous, adored, untethered — and the desperate wish to be pulled back to earth.…

fame and burnout codependency and distance in relationships self-destruction

High & Dry

ABC

This is a reading of ABC's version of a widely known song about self-destructive ambition and the fear of being abandoned by…

self-destruction fame and recognition codependency

I Need a Forest Fire

James Blake

A minimalist meditation on emotional stagnation, where the speaker asks for destruction as a form of renewal. Blake uses the…

emotional numbness renewal through destruction self-isolation

Hateful

The Clash

A short, jittery song built as a call-and-response addiction narrative, where the speaker's supplier is addressed with the…

addiction and dependency self-deception isolation

Portions for Foxes

Rilo Kiley

A confessional track that treats a self-destructive attraction as a chain reaction rather than a choice, tracing how talk…

self-sabotage mutual destructiveness mortality

Got to Give It Up

Thin Lizzy

A confessional first-person account of addiction, framed as a series of messages sent to family members from someone who knows…

addiction and substance abuse shame and family self-destruction

Lost Boys

Phoebe Bridgers

A song about being drawn back, again and again, to someone (or something) reckless and self-destructive, using the Peter Pan…

arrested development romanticized danger toxic intimacy

All for Leyna

Billy Joel

A young narrator describes a destructive, one-sided infatuation using imagery of physical danger — electrified rails, hidden…

obsessive infatuation self-destruction adolescent isolation

bury a friend

Billie Eilish

The song stages a horror-movie scenario in which the speaker is both monster and victim, questioning a listener/patient/prey…

self-loathing and suicidal ideation exploitation of the artist/persona fear and intimacy

Chum

Earl Sweatshirt

"Chum" is Earl Sweatshirt's most direct autobiographical statement on Doris, tracing father-absence, adolescent…

absent fatherhood identity and belonging addiction and self-destruction

Can't Find My Heart

Broken Social Scene

A hushed, hypnotic plea built almost entirely from conditional clauses and a repeated invitation to go home, undercut by a…

emotional numbness conditional intimacy self-doubt

Trem Two

Mission of Burma

A dense, dreamlike lyric from Mission of Burma's 'Trem Two' that treats a streetcar ride as a passage through half-formed memory…

dissociation and self-confrontation loss of intimacy transit as metaphor for consciousness

Where You'll Find Me Now

Neutral Milk Hotel

A dense, image-clogged confession of shame and diminishment inside a fraught intimacy, where the speaker imagines himself…

guilt and self-punishment voicelessness corrupted intimacy