Results for “self-protection/withholding”

Songs

Self Control

Frank Ocean

A wistful, fragmented account of a fading summer romance that never quite resolved into anything permanent, sung from the…

unrequited or asymmetrical desire nostalgia for a shared past that never fully existed self-restraint and its collapse

Borderline (An Ode to Self Care)

Solange

A hushed, weary meditation on withdrawal as an act of love, this A Seat at the Table track frames stepping back from public and…

burnout and self-care solidarity under pressure the personal as political

I Don't Want to Know

Fleetwood Mac

A folk-rock kiss-off built on willful avoidance: the narrator insists they won't ask why a relationship is ending, framing that…

denial as self-protection romantic exhaustion emotional withholding

Frozen

Madonna

A meditation on emotional guardedness set to icy, spiritually-inflected electronica, the song addresses a lover whose…

emotional withholding spiritual awakening vulnerability vs. self-protection

Hot & Heavy

Lucy Dacus

Lucy Dacus revisits an old, formative relationship with a former self who has since become someone else entirely — more…

nostalgia and revisitation growth and self-transformation guilt and self-protection

Gold Soundz

Pavement

A hazy, slippery breakup-adjacent song that treats emotional withholding as a kind of aesthetic principle. Pavement's famously…

emotional withholding nostalgia and its limits apathy as self-protection

The Narcissist

Blur

A comeback single that turns self-scrutiny into spectacle, staging the singer's return to public life as a confrontation with…

fame and self-image addiction and escape vulnerability vs. self-protection

Wild Fire

Laura Marling

Laura Marling narrates from the outside of a relationship, watching a woman she's fascinated by perform for others while…

watching versus being seen inherited family damage artistic self-consciousness

Since You Put Me Down

Margo Price

A breakup song built around a single, escalating image: the narrator drinking hard enough to kill off her own conscience so…

heartbreak and self-destruction alcohol as anesthetic hardened self-protection

I Get Along Without You Very Well (Except Sometimes)

Chet Baker

A standard from 1939 (words and music by Jane Brown Thompson, published as a discovery by Hoagy Carmichael) becomes, in Baker's…

denial as self-protection involuntary memory seasonal association with loss

Fairytale In the Supermarket

The Raincoats

A fragmented, deliberately awkward meditation on the impossibility of really knowing another person, staged against the banal…

alienation within intimacy the banality of daily life identity and projection

Bag Lady

Erykah Badu

Erykah Badu addresses an unnamed woman weighed down by emotional baggage from past relationships, using the extended image of a…

emotional baggage and self-protection letting go of past hurt self-worth versus accumulated pain

Push

The Cure

"Push" is largely an instrumental-driven track with sparse, cryptic lyrics that arrive late and function more as texture than…

self-protection alienation obsession

I Am a Scientist

Guided by Voices

A short, deceptively simple lo-fi anthem in which the narrator cycles through professional identities—scientist, journalist,…

self-examination addiction and escape art as self-medication

Every Time the Sun Comes Up

Sharon Van Etten

This is Sharon Van Etten at her loosest and most winking, a track built on a single sardonic refrain about self-sabotage rather…

self-sabotage domestic disorder irony and deflection

Volcano

Damien Rice

A duet-shaped confession about mismatched intimacy, where the narrator warns a partner against overcommitting emotionally while…

emotional imbalance self-doubt in intimacy fear of dependency

Save Yourself

Sharon Van Etten

A quietly seething breakup song in which the narrator sees through a partner's self-serving reassurances and names the pattern…

emotional self-protection disillusionment in love fading intimacy

All My Favorite Songs

Weezer

A catalog of small self-contradictions strung together into a chorus of self-diagnosis, this song treats confusion about one's…

self-contradiction anxiety and self-diagnosis ambivalence toward pleasure

Ever Again

Robyn

A dance-pop declaration of self-protective optimism, in which the narrator tries to talk both a partner and herself into…

emotional self-protection cyclical relationships vulnerability disguised as resolve

Walk On By

Dionne Warwick

A woman instructs a former lover to keep walking past her rather than stop and witness her grief, turning a request for distance…

heartbreak concealed by pride self-protection through avoidance public performance of composure

One More Try

George Michael

A wary, self-protective ballad about a narrator who has been burned by intimacy and now treats love as a dangerous lesson he'd…

fear of vulnerability emotional self-protection power imbalance in relationships

Me and My Husband

Mitski

A brief, waltz-like song that frames marriage not as romance but as a bulwark against mortality and self-loathing. The…

mortality and impermanence self-erasure marriage as survival strategy

All Apologies

Nirvana

A closing statement of exhaustion dressed as a lullaby, where the singer offers blanket apology and self-erasure instead of…

self-effacement marriage and domesticity guilt and blame

Live Oak

Jason Isbell

A murder ballad disguised as a confession of self-improvement, in which the narrator's claim to have left his violent past…

duality of self violence and love intertwined addiction as haunting past self

Turn Out the Lights

Julien Baker

A quiet, unflinching account of a mind alone at night, where the speaker admits to self-harm ideation without melodrama and asks…

depression and isolation self-harm ideation asking for help while deflecting it

Drunk Drivers/Killer Whales

Car Seat Headrest

A meditation on addiction, self-destruction, and the possibility of change, filtered through the recurring image of driving…

addiction and self-destruction shame and self-loathing the possibility of redemption

Miss Misery

Elliott Smith

A stripped-down confession of failed self-repair, written for the film Good Will Hunting but functioning as a self-contained…

self-medication and denial romantic abandonment performed resilience

Foolish Heart

Alison Krauss

A young narrator rehearses her own exit from a doomed relationship, arguing herself into leaving before she can be hurt again.…

self-protection versus vulnerability romantic disillusionment pride as armor

Andromeda

Weyes Blood

Weyes Blood turns cosmic distance into a metaphor for romantic avoidance, using the vastness of a galaxy to describe an…

emotional avoidance romantic risk self-protection vs. vulnerability

Bird On a Wire

Leonard Cohen

A confession and an apology run together as the speaker compares himself to a series of unstable, straining images to explain…

freedom versus commitment guilt and self-forgiveness instability of the self

Boats to Build

Guy Clark

Guy Clark turns the craft of boatbuilding into a meditation on making a life with your own hands and getting on with it before…

mortality and urgency craftsmanship as self-definition self-reliance

Coming Up Roses

Elliott Smith

A hallucinatory address to a self or double, tracking a slow poisoning that the speaker frames as a kind of blooming. The song…

addiction and self-destruction dissociation from the self toxic inheritance

Someone To Watch Over Me

Ella Fitzgerald

A Gershwin standard delivered as a quiet meditation on romantic longing, framed through the image of a lost lamb searching for a…

romantic longing vulnerability self-deprecating humor

Cinnamon Girl

Lana Del Rey

A woman stays tethered to a partner whose emotional and possibly chemical volatility she narrates with sensory precision, even…

emotional withholding addiction and self-medication codependency

Reason to Believe

Karen Dalton

Karen Dalton's reading of the Tim Hardin standard turns a folk-pop lament into something closer to a slow reckoning with…

self-deception emotional dependency betrayal

Everything Is Everything

Lauryn Hill

A meditation on cyclical change and self-determination that doubles as a virtuosic display of rap craft, this track pairs a…

cyclical change and renewal self-empowerment spiritual/religious syncretism

A Fond Farewell

Elliott Smith

A quiet, devastating self-elegy disguised as a song about someone else, in which the narrator uses the third person to describe…

addiction self-annihilation denial and dissociation

Chasing a Bee

Mercury Rev

A hazy, druggy fable about pursuit and containment, where sunlit imagery of seduction and pleasure keeps curdling into images of…

intoxication and altered perception freedom versus entrapment instability of the self

Always This Way

Laura Marling

A quiet meditation on loss and self-accounting, where the narrator processes the departure of someone close by returning…

heartbreak and abandonment self-reliance as coping mechanism fate versus choice

Identity

X‐Ray Spex

A short, hammering punk track that treats the idea of self-image as a literal wound. Poly Styrene repeats the word "identity"…

media saturation self-image and alienation consumer culture