Aretha Franklin
Aretha Franklin's reworking of a song originally about a working man asking for domestic peace turns it into a declaration of…
self-respect reciprocity in relationships female autonomy
Lauryn Hill
Lauryn Hill delivers a two-part sermon on sex, self-respect, and modern relationship dysfunction, addressing women in the first…
sexual double standards nostalgia for a simpler past personal responsibility
Steely Dan
A slack, aging drifter moves onto his aunt's couch and develops an unseemly fixation on his young cousin, pitching her a…
arrested development delusional self-image taboo desire played for laughs
Muddy Waters
Muddy Waters restages his own 1955 declaration of manhood as a late-career victory lap, spelling out the word itself to leave no…
masculinity and self-definition aging and vitality racial dignity ('man' vs 'boy')
Betty Davis
Betty Davis takes the insults an ex has thrown at her -- witch, alley cat, dirty dog -- and turns them into a badge of honor,…
sexual autonomy reclaiming slurs female desire vs. respectability
A blunt, funky demand for a partner to reckon with how they're treating the singer, built almost entirely around one imperative…
self-respect in relationships freedom and autonomy emotional exhaustion
Bessie Smith
Bessie Smith delivers a blues complaint about a lover who has gotten money and forgotten who stood by him when he had none. It's…
betrayal after success female self-respect economic power shifting a relationship
Gladys Knight
Gladys Knight catalogs the domestic labor of a woman keeping a household running while her partner grows cold and indifferent,…
emotional labor and domestic care withheld affection self-respect and pride
Radiohead
A song of self-loathing built around a single obsessive comparison: the speaker idolizes someone he sees as flawless while…
self-loathing unrequited desire alienation
David Bowie
A restless self-portrait of an artist who treats identity as provisional, staged against a generational standoff between an…
self-reinvention generational conflict impermanence
The Kinks
The Kinks revive Lola from their earlier hit only to trap her in a nervous, self-lacerating anthem about anxiety and…
paranoia and mental illness self-sabotage fame and surveillance anxiety
Chaka Khan
Chaka Khan addresses a fragile, self-sabotaging figure imagined as a wounded angel, urging her toward emotional openness and…
emotional vulnerability self-acceptance healing through love
Erykah Badu
A meditation on spiritual self-possession disguised as a loose, jazzy groove, 'On & On' moves through riddles, numerology, and…
spiritual self-knowledge Afrocentric/Five Percenter theology cyclical time and endurance
Sleater-Kinney
A defiant statement of self-invention that refuses easy categorization, either as a musical movement or as a stable identity.…
self-definition against labels resistance to commodification anonymity as autonomy
Missy Elliott
Missy Elliott's signature single is a maximalist celebration of sexual confidence and self-invention, built on a literal sonic…
sexual agency self-invention and reinvention female solidarity and hustle
James Taylor
A spare, almost proverbial song about walking away from a failed relationship or a bad chapter of life, addressed as much to the…
self-recrimination forward motion as survival regret
Queen
A pure momentum song: the speaker declares himself an unstoppable force of pleasure and energy, piling up cosmic and mechanical…
hedonism and release self-mythologizing speed and momentum
Alice in Chains
A short, stark meditation on isolation and self-erasure, built from two spare verses and a wordless, keening refrain. The song…
isolation loss of autonomy despair
Sufjan Stevens
A song about the aftermath of a mother's abandonment and death, staged as a private argument between numbness and the…
maternal abandonment and grief emotional repression childhood memory
Nick Drake
An opening-track confession that traces a single life arc—innocence, vitality, and eventual depletion—in four spare stanzas. The…
decline and aging loss of innocence spiritual exhaustion
Margo Price
A honky-tonk drinking song that plays the genre's oldest trick—turning heartbreak into a barroom joke—while quietly admitting…
heartbreak self-destruction futility of escape
A meditation on getting lost as a form of self-discovery, built around a single wandering vamp that never resolves into a tidy…
self-forgiveness uncertainty as growth intuition over planning
The Fall
This is a plainspoken cautionary tale about romantic self-deception: a man ignores his own instincts, falls hard for a woman who…
self-deception romantic ruin pride and consequence
Carole King
A gentle self-help anthem disguised as a pop song, in which the narrator talks herself (and the listener) into projecting warmth…
self-affirmation urban alienation emotional resilience
Lorde
A teenager from an unglamorous town catalogs the luxury clichés of contemporary pop and mass media, then refuses them, proposing…
class and aspiration media saturation and celebrity excess authenticity versus performance
Jimi Hendrix
A hallucinatory vision of social collapse filtered through a drinker's blurred perception, where reaching hands never quite…
social unrest spiritual longing alienation
Japanese Breakfast
A synth-pop breakup plea dressed up as a demand rather than a lament: the narrator wants proof of good faith from an unreliable…
conditional love self-deception desire versus doubt
Buzzcocks
A blunt, sneering anthem of anti-affect, "Boredom" turns the emptiness of punk's stock subject into a self-parodying joke,…
boredom and apathy self-parody punk minimalism
Bill Callahan
A restless, aphoristic meditation on identity and self-narration, borrowing its title's initials to nod toward the noir novelist…
self-mythology impermanence of mood the unreliability of narrative
Common
Common builds a triumphant victory-lap track around a sampled ELO hook, using the sky as a running metaphor for ascent,…
ambition realized spiritual gratitude celebrity and success
Sharon Van Etten
A quietly seething breakup song in which the narrator sees through a partner's self-serving reassurances and names the pattern…
emotional self-protection disillusionment in love fading intimacy
Leonard Cohen
This is a late-Cohen autopsy of a life spent chasing and fleeing intimacy, delivered as a kind of confessional inventory. Cohen…
mortality and retrospection the failure of romantic and religious ideals self-mythologizing and its collapse
The Temptations
A mid-80s Temptations single that reworks old-fashioned courtship etiquette into a slick, upbeat pitch. The narrator presents…
chivalry and gender roles nostalgia for traditional courtship masculine self-presentation
Lana Del Rey
A woman narrates one glowing, precarious night with a lover she suspects she's about to lose, fusing sensory euphoria with an…
doomed romance hedonism as coping beauty and self-fashioning
Prince
A brash, funk-drenched self-coronation written for the Joker character in Tim Burton's Batman, "Partyman" turns egotism into…
self-proclaimed dominance hedonism and spectacle performance of villainy/showmanship
George Michael
A dance-pop declaration of self-preservation dressed up as a love song: the narrator is attracted to someone but refuses to hand…
romantic self-protection distrust of surface attraction patience versus desire
Bon Iver
A raw, fragmentary breakup address built from accusation and self-recrimination in equal measure, sung to a fading relationship…
dissolution of a relationship emotional exhaustion blame and self-blame
Massive Attack
A slow-burning meditation on desire as self-inflicted damage, built from a handful of repeated images—storms, sin, flame,…
desire and self-destruction moral ambivalence addiction to feeling
Sam Cooke
A breezy, self-mocking complaint from a young man stuck in a new town with cash in his pocket and no date on a Saturday night.…
loneliness displacement romantic frustration
Depeche Mode
A slow-burning devotional track that blurs the line between spiritual ecstasy and self-annihilation, using the imagery of…
surrender and self-dissolution transcendence through love or faith mortality